Homework is one of the least favorite exercises for both parent and child. I was reminded of this while helping my five and seven-year-old nephew and niece with their homework recently. It seems like yesterday since I was helping our own sons with homework, when in actuality it was many years ago. It is easy to forget the complaining, cajoling and pleading to get homework finished. But it is also an important exercise in helping your children get an organized workplace at home, to having family rules about computer and TV time before homework is finished and to teach independent study skills as a child matures.
So… trying to get my niece and nephew to settle down for homework with out getting up, trying to “sneak” back to the computer andto focus on the letter ‘N’, was a real test of forgotten parenting skills. I am not sure I was a total success. They did not want to do their homework, gave me 10 reasons it wasn’t necessary and told me “Aunt Sue you are the meanest aunt we have”, which I am sure was not a compliment.
After much stalling, begging and promising “we” finished one worksheet for first grade and a Pre-K sheet glued with picture of ‘N’ words cut from catalogs (while he searched for Christmas presents for me to buy him). It was organized chaos to say the least, but it was finished!
The short story is, have a set time for homework and a place for your young children to work, where they are within your sight, but also without a lot of distraction. Try to get homework done earlier than later; it’s always harder when both parents and children are tired. Make their homework their responsibility, even from early elementary years, as it sets the stage for the rest of their years of homework. Lastly, don’t ask Aunt Sue the pediatrician to help; she has “way too many rules”.
That’s your daily dose, we’ll chat tomorrow.